One day at work, a customer leaned in and tried to kiss Kemi. Another held her wrist longer than necessary while collecting change. Later, two men asked, “Where is the man in charge?”
When Kemi replied, “I’m the owner,” they laughed and spoke over her like she was invisible.
Still, she kept working as rent was due, loans and salaries had to be settled.
Quitting was not an option.
Many women have to adapt to this kind of life; waking up strong, swallowing insults, and calling it professionalism.
In the Bible, Hagar knew this pain. Used, ignored, and silenced, she ran into the wilderness, yet God met her there.
She said, “You are the God who sees me” (Genesis 16:13).
God did not excuse her suffering; He acknowledged it.
Politeness Is Not Consent; Boundaries Are Godly
A woman’s calm voice or friendliness is not permission to overstep (John 18:23).
Also, Respect is not optional: “Show proper respect to everyone” (1 Peter 2:17).
Work does not cancel worth, God approves of everyone regardless of their status, gender or position.
Boundaries are godly, not rude. Deborah led with authority in a male-dominated space, and God backed her leadership (Judges 4).
Do not be afraid to set clear firm boundaries as needed.
Healing A Culture of Entitlement
No one has ownership over another person’s body, voice, or space.
Practical Tools For Dignity And Safety
Dear woman, do not suffer in silence, walk in wisdom as protection tools (Proverbs 4:7) outlined below;
- Be courageous to set clear boundaries
- Use firm and concise responses
- Keep your distance
- Refuse private interactions
- Involve witnesses and gather evidences
- Trust your intuition and
- Seek help early
- Join support groups
Being gracious should never require enduring abuse.
Women are not asking for favor; only the right to work without fear.
God sees these hidden battles, and dignity should never be the price of survival.
