Have you ever been so sure someone was “the one”? (Your dream man/woman) Someone you’d known for sometime, prayed together, planned together, and then, out of nowhere, it ended. This was someone you were convinced would be your partner. It hurts. It feels unfair. You wonder, “Why would God let me fall in love if it wasn’t meant to last?”
Here’s the truth: sometimes God allows a connection to show us what love can look like, but He doesn’t allow it to continue because He sees what we can’t. Obedience in love means trusting His “no” even when your heart is breaking. And that’s hard. But it’s also where real growth happens.
When God redirects you, it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable or you failed. It means He loves you too much to let you settle for less than His best. That person might have been good, but not good for you in the long run. Maybe their values didn’t fully align with yours. Maybe the timing wasn’t right. Or maybe God has a greater purpose for your life that requires a different partner.
Healing from such isn’t automatic. It’s okay to cry, to grieve, and to ask God questions. But healing also means letting God into your pain. Surround yourself with healthy community. Pray honestly. Focus on your purpose, not just your pain. Trust that the God who sees the end from the beginning has something better than you could have scripted for yourself.
Remember: God’s redirection is protection. His delays are not denials. His “no” makes room for the right “yes.”
So if you’re in that place of heartbreak, don’t lose hope. Don’t rush into another relationship to numb the pain. Obey God even when it hurts, and you’ll see Him write a story of love and marriage that’s far better than what you thought you lost.
